Be warned, this book is not only empowering but will have you adding the word f*ck, and it’s many variations (f*cking, f*cker, motherf*cker, etc…), at sometimes inappropriate times and places.
That being said…
“I want you to f*ck this earth with your energy.”
That phrase needs it’s own line, doesn’t it? Kelly Cutrone writes this in the introduction of her new book “Normal Gets You Nowhere.” A harsh yet powerful, mantra-worthy phrase that sends home the message to be your real and authentic self – OWN IT!
Often, we see the “crazies” or “weirdos” of the world – you know, like that guy who claims to channel God, that “sensitive” guy that cries all the time, that girl who’s a powerhouse; or in the author’s case, the woman who wears all black and no make-up … you get the idea. We judge, while quietly wishing we had the nerve to be THAT authentic.
It reminds me of one of my favourite excerpts “Our Deepest Fear” from the book “Return to Love” by Marianne Williamson.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do… And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Now, while tuning into your authentic self, it’s time to tap into your intuition.
I learned this lesson the hard way, and my hope is that you don’t! Choose your clients, partners, team members, and anyone else connected to your business CAREFULLY! Follow your intuition and don’t work with ANYone if it doesn’t feel right and isn’t aligned with your values and vision. Kelly Cutrone writes about her former business partner who didn’t follow this rule, and so by default she didn’t either – resulting in the two of them being thrown under the bus (figuratively speaking – if that’s not obvious). Now she writes, “I don’t represent anyone I don’t believe in and genuinely enjoy being a mouthpiece for.” In my opinion, this is THE most important lesson in business – hands-f*cking-down!
Cutrone also touches on a life lesson that has become very real to me recently. At the HayHouse conference in Vancouver, I heard Caroline Myss talk about a very sad truth – we live in a disposable society: razors, paper plates…people! Kelly Cutrone’s fix? The No Matter What Club. “Think of it as a list… [of people] you’re choosing to take life’s journey with, through thick and thin, shame and excess, failure and victory.” I can’t even begin to describe how important I feel this concept is. The book mirrors the same views shared on a stage by Myss, that can be summed up with this:
“Most of us are too quick to call people friends, too quick to say ‘I love you,’ and too quick to write people off forever. Instead, we need to accept that whoever we decide to truly love and call a friend will inevitably let us down in our lifetime… the truth is, is if we keep running away from everyone who hurts or betrays us, we will ultimately end up alone.” I could NOT have said it better!
I can keep on going for a REALLY long time about all the gems in this book, but I don’t want to spoil it for you. Cutrone covers everything from the holidays, human suffering, Universal Motherhood, good deeds, business lessons, and death. AND covers it all in a voice that speaks in my fucking language! It’s about time.
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